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Monday, July 3, 2017

Enjoying last few day before university start



  My friend told me; today is last day of summer vacation make it epic and adventurous. My reply was let us make it epic by sleeping all day long.

     Looking back at a number of days off in summer vacation. It makes you feel you have, so many days to do different stuff. If you closely look and calculate, you will realize you don't have many days for your vacation; if you utilize fully.  If you count a number of opportunities, you will be amazed; there are immense opportunities. For example, you can take classes, go for vacation, internship at University according to your own major and field, volunteer at community, take more hours at job, travel around the world or even close by cities and states, give it a call to long forgotten friend and family friend and there are so many stuff you can do. In order to do something, you need to be proactive and plan ahead of the head and make the checklist for activities, so that you don't forget.

     Lying on the bed, looking back what I did on my vacation. I didn't do much with my vacation, I tried to be productive and proactive and avail it fully. First of all, I enrolled into two community college classes (interpersonal communication and art appreciation). Secondly, I tried to get involved with local community and tried to make new friends and know my community. Thirdly I took part in leadership internship at University to enrich my resume and get more skills. Lastly, I went for vacation and visited the different part of California, especially California beaches, mountain and different small cities. Unfortunately, I wasn't working, which means I didn't earn anything, everything from my saving. It brings the important part, does some saving before summer so that you have enough cash in your bank to enjoy your summer.

   Let us just hope new fall semester will be fun and exciting and make new friends. 



Experience at community college: Offers more then you expect



     My stories at the different and new community college. I am currently going to the community college which has two sister colleges; which means I get to switch between two colleges If I couldn't find my desired courses. My point, I have pretty good idea of community colleges.  I thought all the colleges work the same way, but to my amazement, they don't.
    
     I went with my cousin to drop him at the community college because he couldn't find the class at local community college. I was amazed to know within 30 miles radius, we have college which is completely different and unique in its own way.

      Let me explain what difference I am talking about. It is less crowded and people seems to be nice. They are helpful, but some of them don't know where the different facilities are situated such as admission building, library, cafeteria classroom.

      The cafeteria was very small and barely less than 20 sitting arrangement. To make thing clear, it was small and everything was easy to reach able and attached to the wall. To my amazement library was huge, gigantic and double floor building like easily 500 people can fit in. Easily accessible to the computer, mostly empty for first day and seat were empty too as if they were exempting more people.

      For the first day, it was pretty empty college. No lines in admission and financial aid building. Mostly on the first day of college, there is huge line outside financial aid and admission building in community college, but it seems like everything was taken care and all the queries were solved ahead of time. I was looking at the class schedule and they were a wide variety of classes which are mostly not offered easily, and in my college, you have to wait one whole semester before you can actually get in. In this college they are offering all sorts of classes to their student and number for each course are more than usual.

      If you look at it as structural wise, it was huge campus and widely spread out. It was not crowded or packed that you would think they are trying to squeezing everything in one place. At first, I was confused and I was thinking it will easily to find the different place, but to my amazement, it took me awhile to actually figure out where the different places were.
   
    My college is ethical and culturally diverse, but to my amazement over here there seem to be one group of people mostly prominent.

    I really like the campus, I was glad I came and get to know different campus in neighboring cities.  


Life give second chance to few; don’t lose it



     Life is full of surprises and changes, everything we do we tend to look for rewards one way or another. We stress out a lot about life and every time we messed up something, we wish we had the second chance to live in games if you messed up you come back and try again.  But have you imagine, having your life As unpredictable and no chance is the blessing in disguise. Let me walk you guys with what I meant with some examples and life experience we all go through but never realized.

     For young teenagers who want or achieve something, they work hard enough to get it. They know putting full effort is everything they got otherwise they won't get into dream school or get into basketball team or win science competition they work endless nights or sometimes one guy who is having the streak of getting position will lose it. 

    If we go further in life, mostly in college or university life you think you have the second chance of repeating courses but honestly, you don't. You may improve it and get and A second time, but charms of getting an A is something different. Furthermore, if you have withdrawn, F and C in your transcript then you will struggle in a job.

    But have you imagine that those bad grades help in disguise, what if you might lose the job or end up with a really bad manager. You will start your own start up business and succeed in your business and make you earning and up in the business world.

   Let say you got into the fight with the girl friend or dear one, and you close to breaking up or end a relationship. Here's come second chance, when you will be far from your dear one, then you realize the importance of them. You will work hard to get back to them and try not to make the same mistake again. What if you continue same way and down the line, your love one met someone else and if you lose her for someone else then you won't get back. So little up and down in relationships are ok, but try to fix it and consider it as the blessing rather cursed.

   Sometimes we get stuck in traffic or get late at work and start cursing luck and getting irritated but have you imagine. What if you were speeding and lost control of the vehicle and hit something or someone because of accident end up in the hospital with lots of hospital bill. Even sometimes nothing happened and you get in time, but your manager was angry on someone else and the first person he or she sees was you and you get in trouble because of someone else. There are so many examples you just need to see the different side.

   If something doesn't work first time doesn't mean it won't work every time, everything happens at specific times and you just need to be positive and never give hope 

  Always be grateful for second chances, you never know what it has for you. 

  Dreams big and stay positive 



Priceless love: Mother love




    When you were in her womb, she knew what difficulties she has to bear in coming future. While pregnant she was in her biggest physical pain and psychological stress of keeping you protected and knew the trauma she will go through in labor and delivery, but still decided to keep.

   When you don't know a single word, your mom helps and thought you every single word with patience and keen interest.
18 years later, when she wants to talk with you, you shush her and try to speak in the loud and rude way. In extreme case don't talk with them for days and lock in the room.

   When you don't know how to walk. She helps you how to crawl and then gradually and slowly to walk. 

  30 years later, when she is older in her age and can't walk and used the wheelchair. you can't walk slowly with her in her wheelchair and you leave her in the nursing home and meet her once in the blue moon.

   When you don't have logic and sense. She helps you to connect thing and make logic for you and answered all your stupid and repeated questions without a single if. Every single time you ask something and she explain you with all the detailed and story for you to understand.

   20 years later, when she has some question regards new gadget or asking you to teach some technology. you easily get annoyed and try to avoid with every single possibility. When she has the hard time understanding you shush her and get easily rude.

   When you don't have single money as pocket money to buy your desired toys. your parents will work the 9-5 job with extra hours to bring all the happiness.

   40 years later, when your parents get old and their pension is not enough to fulfill their need. You give them hard time with money and you count every single penny you give them and argue with them if they ask extra you complain and inquire about the money you gave earlier.

  Mother is one of the precious creation of the creator, so handle with care if lost you will regret in losing it.


Steps to become doctor; and how difficult to get into medical school.



There are so many major and occupation, but you choose to opt medical field as your career. Although you had the chance to go for major which was less competitive, you pledge to scarifies your sleep, time, money, and leisure time for endless years of education and exam stress. Knowing all your effort with uncertainty if you will be selected into one of the medical schools. Even before getting into medical school, people start to have hope and expectation that you will become the physician and serve the people. Most people consider medical field to be the money making field, but people don't realize the endless effort and hard work physician put to achieve the title. Guess what! many years from today you will be proud of your decision and efforts.

Things Pre-Med student consider even before becoming Doctor. Many simple Question yet not simple answer

Being Pre-med student not only mean scoring high score or being very active in volunteer work, internship or clinical care external. You also need to be on track, also the path which you have selected have some difficult question which needs to be answered. If you don't know the answer for some of the basic question then you might have to do research or ask the Pre-med academic counselor or senior student.

Question such as

What is the medical school entrance exam to take (Mcat)?
What average score on MCAT to get into medical school?
What is the prerequisite for the medical school you want to enter?
What are in-state or out of state acceptance ratio?
What is medical school fee and do they provide financial aid for the student?
What is the official website for the medical school such as AMCAS?

Be confident, Never give up and Patience

Being physician is the great thing, but it needs struggle and hard work. The idea of being pre-med itself is overwhelming and scary. Once you set your mind of becoming a doctor, then you need to realize there is no turning back and have to be confident. I totally agree that journey is long and might take approximately 10 years after high school, but look at the bright side of being able to get the high pay check. Apart from getting the high pay check, you get respect from people and community and from those of whom you served.

Endless Exams, Entry Test and Managing time

I totally agree that there are so many exams and entrance exam are difficult to get into medical school. You need to realize that you will be dealing with people living, so school has to select people among the top. Exams and various test even before entering medical school are just a way school used to sort out those who can handle pressure and manage time.  life of the physician is not easy, endless hours of work at clinic and hospital and sometimes 80hrs per week. It is just training before getting into the field. Competition for few seats is what makes it interesting, if anyone can get into medical school then you won't spend effort, time, money and handwork into it.



Volunteer, Internship, and Job not enough

Well, all medical school give the general academic requirement, upcoming medical school class profile, MCAT score or GPA. Most schools don't specify what they require as extracurricular actives to get into medical school. that's like million dollar question. Let me tell you, medical school are not looking for any specific thing, but they are looking for all rounder which means the person who is best at many things not just academic. They don't want the multi-copy of the same applicant yet the want diversity in the application pool and people with different talent, experience, and background. You can serve in Nursing home, clinical research, volunteer at the different hospital, different job, teaching, and list goes on, but the bottom line is they are looking for someone who is committed and ready to give up their leisure time for the bigger goal.

Making right decision at right time. 
Lastly, I would like to emphasize on something which is very important is that making the right decision at right time. It could be anything just as taking entrance test exam, studying for Ochem, or taking time off for the family reunion. Plan out everything and write down buck list for future. time is money and with single wrong decision or laziness, your dream might shatter or delay in education. Get yourself in habit of writing down stuff with date and time, so that you don't forget and try something new such as progress report and track it for your progress every single night.


With advancement is technology, everything is done automatically, so if your GPA or entrance score are few point low then cut off point then you might get the rejection. Most importantly try to do good at academic, score really good in the entrance exam and maintain your GPA. Don't get lazy and hopeless with the little downfall.


Dream big and the sky is the limit.

Father who plays multiple role in every stage of life


   We have often seen or read lots of books, poetry, and writing for the mother. The sacrifice mothers do for their children, but we of neglect the importance of father as he plays important role in life too. 

   Father in most case is ideal figure for most children in different stages of child life either sports, making dreams come true financial or moral or solve any affairs child encounter in life. 

  Father plays symbol as an ideal figure as most people in our early school life even in teenage ask what does your do for the living? Or more often you are being asked what do you want to be when you grow up? The answer can be as simple like father occupation, but it has the deeper meaning of giving important to dad in wider degree.

  You may get all the comfort and care from the mother, but when it comes to financial needs you come to dad for money.
Not only when you ask for help, they also plan for your future ahead of time by doing the double job to save for college fees or helping you in other worldly affairs.

  Often dads are considered strict and harsh on kids, but one needs to realize that if both parents will act soft then the child would be spoiled. In order to keep balance, one needs to be soft and other strict. 

  A not only father plays important role in financial problems or teaching children moral values, but they also groom child in worldly dealings. You may think how can father plays such role when most experienced are learned by them self.  That's true. As I told earlier that father plays as the hero figure, so child tries to mimic and copy their father in a different way, for example, working in the garage, fixing stuff at home, or buying or dealing people in the market.


   Father ate the gem, which we often neglect, but his experience and teaching come in handy through different stages of life.

Something about me

   Little about me. I am in my mid twenties, still consider myself as teenager. I live in California, United State of America and  most particularly in Southern part of California. I am college student enjoying life, and still figuring out what to do with life. I consider myself as old fashion, but my hobbies include fashion designing, coin collection from different part of globe, gardening specially growing vegetable and fruits, and lastly writing romantic poetry. Recently graduated from University of California, Irvine with Biological Science major. Currently looking for job, wish me luck and hopefully I find one.

Thursday, June 1, 2017

I'm Introvert, yet I have made lots of Friends

       

          Making a friend or socializing isn't for everyone. You may think its easy but actually its hardest job in the world. The first hi, or smile, can give you a big expression of what people might think about you. I'm not talking about a first day or love at first sight, but simple Hi which might lead to great friendship.

        Let me tell you about myself and how things changed for me, basically " power of confidence". Throughout my High School, I was very introvert and didn't go out with friends or explore the world. I was the kid who would avoid interaction and stay away from people, avoid eye contact. I don't know why it was difficult to talk with people or speak my mind out. The striking idea or expressing myself was simply and plainly difficult. Funny thing I wouldn't even talk to girls (except for classmate to whom I would occasionally communicate), I may consider girls from Mars or would bite me if I ask something.

        So point arise, or million dollar question; how did I end up making so many friends. The fun part they are of different race and ethnicity; even speak the completely different language.
Things changed for me when I moved to California in 2012 and things finally change for me. From having a little friend to several friends ( snapping me on Snapchat or getting like on Instagram), which is a good thing, and bad things as its difficult to keep track of all friends.
         
           I would point out coming to California was a cultural and traditional shock for me; As it changed me completed and gave me the opportunity to speak my mind out.

            *The thing which works for me, something I did differently was to put myself out there and start taking steps to social. The thing which helped me a lot was working in College Cafeteria in California. It made me go-getter and gave me chance to meet a different kind of young student who was from different ethnic background and has different first language. Once I started making a friend and get comfortable with the surrounding, I gained confidence and interact with people.

                The second major helpful thing happened to me, it was to speak and answer the question in classes. Sitting in one of the University of California classes, answering the question to the professor and making sure I get what is being asked. These two things changed me a lot as It allowed me to speak and reaches out to a lot of people. Then joining college clubs and internship, and having leadership roles were a booster.

             I believe we all get a similar situation, it's just depend on how you take it. Most people meet new people in office or malls, don't be afraid to talk. People aren't mean, rude or selfish, simple smile and initiative would do a lot of wonder in person.

           I would totally advise that If you afraid to talk with people or making a friend, find a reason which stops you from taking initiative, and trigger point. Once you overcome your fear then you won't have the problem in reach out to people.

Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Why you should Never Give Up : Million Dollar Ideas





You may think, I might give magic pill or trick to make million dollars overnight. Turning your bank balance from zero to six digit figure. Blink of an eye, and you got million dollars in your pocket. Actually, that's possible if you have won lottery such scratch card  or went to Vegas strip ( gambling all night in one of those fancy resort and hotel), or overnight Youtube hit  and last but not least inherited millions of dollars from million of dollars. The odds of happening that scenario are rarely or unlikely, they are the people who are considered as chosen one by mother nature.


The point is how to make million dollars if you aren't lucky enough to get million dollars in a silver spoon. The reality which may shock most of us, a list of richest people by Forbes or people making into 100 youngest billionaires list comprise of a self-made millionaire. They were people just like me and you, sitting on the couch and watching a favorite Tv show on Netflix or Hulu, few like me watching Shark Tank. The only difference between them and us, the idea of having self-doubt and they weren't afraid to fail. Most of us are stopped from inner voice telling us, you are not good enough or to risk, other telling you; look at your past failure and you think you can make a change. You really think you can make a change, you just gonna lose again. Famous inventor Thomas Edison once said, " I didn't fail 1000 times to make a bulb, but I found the different way it won't work". Before making your first six-digit dollar figure, you need to reconsider what making doubtful about yourself and ideas which pop into your head.

Secondly, all those small ideas or creative show or DIY video you watch such as Shark Tank, or how to do. Never disregard that idea. Small ideas become big ideas, you start from the bottom and make big difference. No one become rich overnight, they believed in their idea and act on it right away. The only thing it takes to gain success or when you google to find " How to get success in life", it's the feeling and motivation you can do this.


Lastly, look around and observe, everything you eat from Kit Kat chocolate to using Apple Mac Laptop or Samsung the cell phone, they are the invention of a human. Even thing small as a diamond ring or fancy neon light on exotic cars, they are all made by someone like you and me. No idea is small or big, its just perspective how you see the world. Ordinary People have done it, why can't you.

Take a step, make your small idea into six-figure dollar; live your dream and make it a reality.

Tuesday, May 30, 2017

Statistical and Analytic Surveyed Data: Fact or Opinion ?

Whenever we look at the survey and comparison fact and figure, we get excited to see where we stand in the survey. Are the survey actually give us real fact and figure, or just the opinion; may be based on the biased variable? 
Let's take the example of the Global Sustainable Competitiveness Index - which relates sustainability at a national level with national competitiveness. There are several factors to be considered when you look into different competitive index such as challenges and accomplish from the survey.
Challenges and Problem associated with conducting survey and ranking system
The factor consider in the survey conduct could be biased for some country or institute, but may be beneficial to another country. Factor like population, capital per income, size, people who are conducting the survey particularly their background, available resources available to conduct the survey. The factor like population determines huge difference as a comparison between the United State of America with few hundred millions of population as compared to some European countries with few million, same goes with large public university compared with small private school. Other factors include first resources available in first world country and developing countries, and its income per capital and infrastructure. Sometimes it's also important to factor that some countries are specialized and focus on certain things as compared to other companies such as toys, furniture and footwear are specialized in China as compared to service sector and highly paid job in the USA. 
People who conduct survey try their best to match and compare all the factor, and set certain criteria and category to be unbiased. With so much specialization and globalization, it's hard to make sure that survey are performed perfectly even with sustainability. When conducting sustainability survey on the base of human, social, economic and environmental, each country is completely different from one and another.
Goals behind conducting Survey and Ranking
What do you plan to achieve from the statistical survey? 
there is no simple answer to this question because each survey is catered different niche market or a particular group of people. A survey like sustainability or ranking of school or comparing different product give a deep understanding of the product. Although they may be different and hard to collect data, the research behind the survey show the importance of the topic and encourage others to conduct their own survey as well. It also shows the importance of the topic and gives the opportunity to see where one stand as compared to another.  Many time people assume that they are doing better than other, or far ahead in the game, but conducting a survey and ranking them help to evaluate and compare where they actually stand, and their weak points. Overall survey and ranking system are good strategies to think and compare and learn from other who are far ahead in the ranking. 

Global Sustainable Competitiveness Index may favor European countries, but it also gives us an idea how much effort they are making it sustainability living and things they are doing to improve themselves. those who are at the top, people can look into these countries deeply and research on the statistical data to see, what are they doing which making them differently. 

Holistic factors in ranking and survey
I would argue, most surveys don't give holistic factor as they are more focus on a certain topic. The ranking just tells us where countries or organization stand. to have a deeper understanding of the topic, one need to do deep digging into the topic and look at the factor which makes the country or organization at the position they are standing. It may give us the answer our where question, but why and how are not normally answered by the survey. 
At the end I would say, the survey is a helpful resource but we shouldn't totally rely on them. It's a good way to make yourself feel happy. 


Sunday, May 28, 2017

Rules to have Fun and Romantic First Date


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Things to consider in Romantic First Date


Is it that beautiful girl you want to ask her out for a date, or cute co-worker whom you always wanted one chance. You get courage and come up with cheesy pick up the line to ask out. You are planning and planning, making a perfect scenario in your head to have that one moment come true. Your friends, family, and sibling gave you courage to finally asked the person out. What if, a special person has the same feeling.  It's special moment if the answer is YES!

The first phase of beautiful and courageous step completed. Now come real hard part where you should impress the person. Dress to Impress, and impress enough to get the second date. But there are few thing and rule you have to follow, to make the first date into a relationship. Otherwise, you will never get a chance to go to the second date.

The thing to do on the First Date.

What to wear on the first date?

Things to wear on the first date for girls can be simple, but unique. Girls have different variety and choice to wear clothes. The choice for girl’s outfit ranging from dress, long shirts, jumpers, rompers and plain jeans. They can wear anything, the key thing to keep in mind to make things simple and match the outfit with purse and shoes. The color combination for outfit shouldn't be too dark or eye catchy, wear light color and something which is according to the season. As far as clothing, wear something which makes you comfortable and enjoyable, don't try too hard or make an extra effort; it will be obvious. Trying new thing on the first date can be tricky if it doesn't come out as you planned, then your concentration would be on fixing your outfit rather than enjoying your first romantic and special moment.

For guys

The thing to wear on the first date for boy and guys, it can be confusing for guys. Remember guys, just because she said yes to you because of your humor or courage, it doesn't mean you have won the girl's, heart. Girls are very picky on guys dressing and appearance, they like to see a person who they are dating to be fashionable and know how to carry themselves in public.  Girls don't like mama boys or someone who just woke up from sleep and came to his first date. Wash and use an 110v electric clothes dryer to dry your clothes, beforehand. Phrase “Dress to impress” apply to you guys, and pay special attention what you decide to wear on the first date. Try to wear a dark color, and nothing sparking or dull color. Cotton shirt and plain pants would work, but don't show up in suit and tie; its date with a girl not a business interview. Do shower, and polish and clean your shoes, and take special care of your hygiene as girls prefer those who are clean and take care of themselves. If you like to wear jeans and T-shirt, wear something plain and nothing offensive written or printed on T-shirt. Remember don't try to overload yourself with extra clothing, but make sure things which you actually matched and look good on you. Must wear “clean and washed clothes, something which doesn't smell”


Perfume for girls and boys

The way you smell can make a huge impact and leave a long-lasting impression. Something which attracts a person, how they smell as it directly hit and stores in your brain. There is a different variety of perfume for guys and girls, and use them in different occasion. There are lots of brand of perfume to choose such as All Men's, Calvin Klein, CHANEL, Dior, Diesel, Giorgio Armani, Gucci, HUGO BOSS. Please..Please...Please take shower and wear a clean dress, and use the perfume you usually wear, maybe try a little bit more, but don't use a lot of perfume that your date can't breathe or may be a person is allergic to certain kind of perfume. It's always better to go with simple and light perfume. Use mouth freshener as well.

Simple, but unique Gift

I always believe that taking small gift is the sign of good token and gesture. Who doesn't love gift? Gifts can be anything from chocolate or roses for the girl on the first date. Bring something not so expensive, so that you don't creep out the other person. Remember, it's your first date,  not romantic honeymoon with your partner. Bringing gift is good but try to be extra careful what you bring to date.





Fancy restaurant or luxurious hotel for romantic date

That's a tricky question to answer, where to take your special one for dinner. Always check your budget and pocket before taking the girl out for dinner. You may impress them with the fancy hotel by beach side view, but on second date you should maintain that standard. You are trying to get and impress the girl of your dream not “Gold Digger”. It's important that you show the eating manner and order less, so you can concentration on talking and spend a quality moment with them. It will also give the opportunity to save some space in the stomach. Don't rush while eating, and take small bites. Always be kind to the waiter, smile and give tips; as it will give a good impression to your partner.

Who should pay for a date?

Let's just say, traditionally its expected for guys to pay for dinner, but if a girl wants to pay her half then let her pay. Don't force her to pay or give a full share, it will come off as rude, egoistic and control.

Close the perfect first date with a hug and walk her to her car or cab, wait till she leaves. Alway text sweet message like “It was nice meeting you, hope to see you soon again”

The first date is not difficult; you just have to play it safe and smart. Another person is as nervous as you are.


Interesting stats about first dates by EliteManMagazine


Don't forget to ask any question or leave a suggestion or your first date story in a comment below.

Good luck...

Love, 
Erfiwa
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Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Letter to Erfiwa

Letter 001
Dear Lovers,

I'm not a love guru or a professional, but I feel that I can help! (that's what people say!) I might be good at listening or advising other people with critical thinking skills. I would love the chance to reach out to those who are shy towards expressing their feelings to everyone. Victims of love, an all-time question of "What if??"


Send in your stories and major concerns about them, I will do my best to help you solve this puzzle we call life and love. Don't be afraid, what could you lose.



Here's what you have to do, send your story as descriptive as possible, with all your concerns listed, any questions to add as well! include ages and gender as that is pertinent to the advice giving!

With Love  
      Erfiwa



Send your email at Erfiwa@gmail.com



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